Pick your scenario
You’re not behind on AI. You’re early to the conversation that matters most. 59 research-backed moves to lead it.
When you want to use AI but worry about being judged
Lead with the outcome, not the tool. Frame AI as a quality decision, not a shortcut.
When your boss questions how you got work done so fast
Reframe speed as thoroughness. Show your judgment layer on top of the AI output.
When you're negotiating salary and want AI-backed data
Use AI to gather comp data, but strip your identity from the prompt. Always cross-reference and use the higher number as your floor.
When you need to write a self-promotion that doesn't feel like bragging
Use the communal-brag formula: frame your win as a team outcome you drove, then let the AI sharpen the language.
When a colleague takes credit for AI-augmented work
Document your process, not just your output. Create a visible trail of your AI-augmented workflow.
When you need to pitch an AI initiative to leadership
Lead with the business case, not the technology. Anchor to credible third-party data.
When you're the only woman in the AI strategy meeting
Bring the governance frame. You have a strategic advantage: you're thinking about what everyone else is skipping.
When you're asked to do office housework (again)
Redirect the task, document the pattern, and use AI to make the invisible work visible.
When your performance review doesn't reflect your impact
Use AI to translate your work into the language your reviewer actually uses. Match the rubric, not just the results.
When you want to use AI but fear the "cheating" label
Reframe AI use as governance instinct, not shortcut. You're not cheating — you're quality-assuring.
When you're building your AI-fluent personal brand
Make your AI capability visible without making it your whole identity. Add one AI-adjacent signal to your public profile.
When you need to say no without being penalized
Use the relational account: say no to the task while saying yes to the relationship. Offer an alternative, not an apology.
When you want to renegotiate your role around AI skills
Position AI skills as a multiplier on your existing strengths, not a pivot to a new identity. Make the business case, not the personal ask.
When your resume keeps getting screened out
Optimize for the algorithm without losing your human reader. Mirror the JD language, boost agentic verbs, and run the AI screener yourself first.
When you need to close the confidence gap on a high-stakes ask
Use AI as your prep partner. Simulate the conversation, anticipate objections, and rehearse your ask with data.
When a senior leader assumes you don't use AI
Use the communal-brag formula to make your AI fluency visible without triggering defensiveness.
When you suspect AI screened you out
Document the signal, request human review, preserve your rights.